You are the society. Change starts with you

If you want to change the world, change starts with you. Because we are the cornerstone of society. One step at a time, the change within us will start reflecting around. Let us take that first step today by being aware of our decisions.

Worshipping politicians – time to ring the bells?

There is so much divide and rule policy going on in the name of religion, about whom to worship. Yet, despite all that, betraying all the gods in the world, how have we conveniently ended up worshipping politicians? Are we precipitating political corruption? Time to ring the alarm bells?

Isn’t the political leader today the same guy who did not know how to respond to the tragedy of a pandemic? The same guy who thought what he did was sufficient, the best he could. Instead of asking him to be accountable for his actions towards the dying millions, we decided to praise him unconditionally for the growing mess. Every leader from every country has failed. No matter how small or big their failure is. Are we waiting for akashvani (message from the sky) to realize this?

Why do we end up worshipping politicians? Is it their larger-than-life presence, like our omnipresent gods? Or is it, our idea of God is so small and limited that anybody can be a god now? A celebrity, a politician, a religious person – anyone who hovers above us and seems larger than life through television, social media, or podiums, is a god now.

Wasn’t the concept of elections meant as a deal where we are supposed to end up gaining something? Like, we vote and they increase employment. Maybe it will work when we expect our leader to be more humane than godly. Then we will not only set the correct but also deliverable expectations. Why not accept them for who they are? Then their whole life will be spent delivering results instead of maintaining a worshipable image.

Let us use our minds instead of hearts to vote. Then the leaders will also focus on work and not just emotional speeches. They need to understand humiliating opponents is not the measure of a leader, growth and development are. And we need to understand we cannot idolize a person to end up whitewashing his mistakes.

It is time to be more responsible in selecting leaders. Time to vote for a good job on regulation, maintaining peace and order, and prevailing fundamental human not religious rights. Time to criticize and ask for change if needed. Let us appreciate their right decisions and powerful speeches, and not blindly agree with everything they do. But isn’t all this a natural progression if we just utilize our God-given minds.

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Worshiping celebrities is even a psychological disorder now

Did you know worshiping celebrities is a syndrome now? In fact, ‘celebrity worship syndrome‘ is an obsessive addictive disorder, which in simpler terms means that an unknown stranger is controlling our minds. When put in the exact words, it is creepy, no?

I don’t understand how people can be fans. Fans of celebrities, religious speakers, industrialists, rich people, politicians. Celebrities? Their lives are tailor-made images painstakingly stitched by influential PR agencies. Politicians? How can someone be a fan of a politician, when their whole life is a web of lies. Their expertise is a stratagem. Let’s be fair, strategy is never about justice, it is about how to get what you want. And rich people, what are you a fan of? Money? Their money? It is not even yours. You are just a fan of how much they spend, what is the price of their costliest pair of shoes? I mean, in what frame of mind does this all make sense?

We have built a society where an entertainer gets billions, and farmers not even hundreds. A society where a politician is expected to do nothing, while the common man toils for hours to get a one-time meal. How did we end up with this topsy-turvy society of worshiping celebrities?

How did we end up in a society where fashion is more important than food? Where food is not consumed as per the needs of our body, but instead as per the fad.

Yes, Economics can surely explain the demand and supply of celebrities, but can Logic explain it? Everything is upside down. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against you liking people or learning from them. But what can make you follow someone? Does it even make sense, that our top priority is entertainment instead of basic necessities and survival needs?

Am I the only person who thinks water is flowing from the bottom to the top in this world of ours? Can we undo all this by taking one step at a time? For today, let us just appreciate and not follow. Our few small steps, will let the water flow from top to bottom, after all it is the natural way of things, no?

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You voted, now blaming the system?

During the pandemic, we kept on blaming the system for our hardships. However, is it right for us to blame the government when we voted for them irresponsibly? We expect a lot from our politicians, and the least of it all is taking the blame when things do not work. In all honesty, is our responsibility shifting appropriate? Indeed the government has to build a strong infrastructure, serve the citizens, blah blah blah. To start with, who elected the government? We deny acting on our responsibility, yet we are ever-ready to play the blame game.

You Voted.

It is you, who voted, now why are you blaming the system, a sarcastic view.

You voted him for his fiery speeches, now expect him to put out the fire.

You voted him for his marketing skills, now expect him to excel in operations.

You voted him his flair for drama, now expect him to minimize the tragedy.

You voted for an actor, leaving out the director. How the hell will the movie be made?

Hypocrisy ki bhi seema hoti hai!!! (there is a limit to hypocrisy!!!)

I often wonder,

Is it the politician’s fault for playing politics, or the voter for playing a fool?

I am in no way trying to take the blame away from the government for its failure. Instead, I am trying to shine the light on our illogical fallacy, that we may choose an inept candidate but he needs to execute adeptly. Once we realize our mistake and take a step towards correcting it, won’t we fall on the right track? We can take some corrective measures in reviewing the right candidate, showing our support for the right decisions, withdrawing the same when things go wrong. If we as a society stand tall in both supporting and contradicting at the right times, we will surely fulfill the dictakts of a strong democracy.

Yes, we need to criticize but only when we are being responsible. Continually blaming the system is a convenient way of shirking our responsibility. No wonder the major concern today is democracy backsliding, as highlighted in the Harvard research paper – How democracies are now ‘backsliding’ in countries from Russia to the United States.

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Career Growth & Life Coach Shailaja Shankar

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The Cost Behind Building Temples. Is It Justifiable?

Is God everywhere or only in temples?
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I have often wondered of the argument, is it right to waste or let’s say spend so much money on building temples? Cite: An intelligent article at BBC: Should religious buildings be sold to help the poor and feed the starving? Every religion has its own way of spending money on places of worship. Won’t it be better to construct a few homes for God, and then spend the rest on charity.

Let’s initiate the program Function.call.god() to call the God anytime, we want. But of course the condition is the lat-long. It can only be a temple.

Don’t get me wrong, I am a firm believer in God. But still, I wonder about the expenses on a residential complex for God who dwells everywhere. Haven’t we learned that God is omnipresent? In air, water, and every atom. Then why are we being egoistical and restricting him to specific Lat-Longs. Isn’t this height of our arrogance?

Then One day, I had an epiphany. Some were arrogant to think that God is available only in temples and gives a visiting appointment to only the high and mighty. Many ancient kings were part of this foolish clique. But all our ancestors were not fools (of course statistically also, it is not possible 😃) One of the sensible reasons for the religious places and continuing ritual practices could be to keep alive faith. May be the sensible ones tried to fool the arrogant kings by tempting with special privileges, for the religious expansion. And luxury followed arrogance.

why are we calling God only in temples at specific Lat-Longs?

Faith is sung of in every religious book. It is what makes our lives livable. For every river of misery that we face, faith is the only boat that can get us through safely to the other bank. Every time, I face an obstacle it is my belief in God, that makes me stand there and face it. We don’t need to always believe in miracles, but the idea that there is someone up there wanting us to pass our tribulations, that’s enough. Faith has always been my best friend.

And even though God lives in every atom, it is unfortunate that we are reminded of him only through keywords. As if in our mental library we have indexed him in certain codes. When we visit a temple or read a mythological story, we bring out his file. Even the moralities of life are thus indexed. Seems like temples or rituals were the function prototype for calling God 😃

So yeah, if something can help every human on the planet, will it not be the best charity? After all, atleast once in life we have all asked for help, to face the ups and downs. And even though it is not my choice of charity, I am still grateful to those who let the faith live this long. But I guess it is time to curtail the spends. Preserving the old ones should be enough rather than constructing new ones.

I am a Life coach, blogger and a believer in God. Understanding him and the way the society interprets him has always fascinated me. I have often felt that our relationship with him, can heal many of our problems. Feel free to connect with me.

Career Growth & Life Coach Shailaja Shankar

Feeling Stuck? Let’s Figure It Out Together.

Life can feel overwhelming at times—whether it’s work, decisions, or just finding balance. You don’t have to figure it all out alone. If you’d like a space to reflect, gain clarity, or move forward, feel free to explore my coaching page. I’d love to support you on your journey.

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Interesting ways to handle anger, I learned, by respecting it

Why Anger Is Not Always Bad, learn in this article

Anger is intense energy. Ask someone who loses control under its power. In fact, the true power of anger can be estimated with its symptoms itself. The body starts shaking, while the mind is depleted of all thoughts except the topic under discussion. For this kind of laser-sharp focus, I have been futilely trying meditation. The power that anger gives me, the omnipotent feeling, meditation is not able to yet 😀.

Anger can also be a signage signaling – “It’s time for a change”. Change your attitude or the situation or learn to handle the situation in a fruitful way. Do you remember, anger is what brought on the major revolutions in history? Strange, but have you ever realized that anger is a sure-shot way for your body to tell you, what you don’t like. And thus, it can make things crystal clear and help in deep realizations. Also, unlike Sadness, depression, irritation, or frustration, anger is the only negative emotion that results in action.

But the problem with anger is:

  1. The energy thus derived is not sustainable for long.
  2. We do not control this energy, the energy controls us. And that is exactly the danger – you cannot control it.

Hence the need for anger management. Managing anger is not about suppressing it, or otherwise shouting insensibly. It is about knowing when to suppress and when to vent out. Anger is like a flooded river, while anger management is like the dam built on the river. To control the volume of water that can be safely released. 

What I used to do, whenever I got angry

  • Become mute. Because our mind is at its sharpest when angry. It can also come out with the most harmful statements during this time. Intelligent – yes, but really harmful.
  • Walk out of the situation. It can seem arrogant at times, but it’s seriously better to not say at this so called – opportune moment 😀 (however wrong, abusing someone can feel heavenly for that moment).
  • Sometimes when I am really out of control and can’t adhere to any of the above, I just utter short and few sentences. The more you talk, the more crap you are gonna come out with.

Frankly, it all revolves around me saying nothing 😀 and yeah, it is a Band-Aid solution.

What I have learnt over time.

The best solution is to state the concern in a dignified way and clarify your limits or what is acceptable and what is not.

But when people involved, respond to only shouting language, then I communicate in the same or just walk away. I gauge my response as per the people involved.

Sometimes, venting out anger can be beneficial in healthy doses. We may get crushed by others if we do not learn to stand up when required.

There is also this second kind of scenario where my opponent is angrier than me. That is my favorite situation, as then I get full control over my anger. My mind starts to think about what is the best thing I can say without encountering permanent damage, and end up delivering the last word 😎

In Hindu mythology, Shiva and Shakti both are known for intense anger and their dance thereupon, which is a practical solution as exercise and creativity can together vent out the intense energy and help it cool down. This is also a solution for – we mortals, in fact whenever I exercise I feel better. Meditation is for the long term but immediate relief is achieved only through exercise.

I confess I am still learning my way with anger management and I get disastrous results many times but honing anger management is better than blunting anger. I don’t believe in suppressing anger.

The only point I make sure to remember is, not take any kind of decisions when angry. Wait till you can make a joke of the situation and then decide on the matter.

Angry with boss? Go home and hit a punching bag. Angry with traffic? listen to your favorite song – it may be the only time you get to relax. Angry with the world? time to change yourself, I guess. 😀

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Labeling people: how labels make you worthless.

Is labeling people appropriate? A discussion on impact of labeling people

I’m iron, I’m Gold are verses on labeling people, on what happens when society fits us into a preconceived mold and expects us to behave accordingly. If only we are recognized for our worth and not mislabeled, won’t we become a more successful society?

I may be Gold, I may be Iron. I wonder how valuable I can be, if only you recognize me for who I am!

Even though I understand that Gold and Iron have different values, but as a metal, both are extremely valuable and useful. It is we, who have labeled them and attached price tags to them.

I'm Gold

I'm Gold they called me Iron.
With Iron they heated me,
for melting early they scrapped me.

I'm Gold, why they called me Iron. 
Sold me at a dollar a pound,
& said, 'what a bargain I found !'

I'm Gold, but they called me Iron.
tried to color, redden or whiten,
everything was okay only not golden.

I'm gold, yet they called me iron.
I may shine, I may brighten, 
but for them I'll always be iron.





I'm Iron

I'm Iron they call me Gold, 
and wonder why at their prices I'm not sold.

I'm Iron they call me Gold, 
hoping prices will soar they keep me on hold.

I am Iron, why they call me gold? 
Do they know at gold's melting point I don't even fold.

I'm Iron, yet they call me gold, 
they don't call blacksmith, always Goldsmith gets the scold.

I’m Iron, alas! they call me Gold, 
never do they realize my uses are multifold.

Maybe you would think that when I label you as Iron, I am considering you inferior. But the truth is without Iron, many industries will shut down and the economies may collapse. So do not underestimate either Gold or Iron, just understand that both have their uses and values.

Why I wrote this poem.

One of the sad parts of our society is we often indulge in labeling people. And this is not a consequence of understanding the person, and then classify them. Instead, it is about designing our own molds and then fitting people into them. Even our Creator has given us unique characteristics, who are we as humans to forego all that and mold them as per our preferences.

And not only do we disregard the traits and skills that people possess, we completely mistag them. No one cares that we are living all our lives with the same QR code that society has assigned to us. I don’t want to give examples here of the mislabeling as it is different for everyone.

Don’t label me as nature-wise: docile or sweet; education-wise: Engg or MBA; or job-wise Marketing or IT professional, etc. I have much more to offer and I definitely don’t want to be typecasted. It seems for every label given to me, I have to spend my whole life either changing it or surpassing it. What a clear waste of time.

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Career Growth & Life Coach Shailaja Shankar

Feeling Stuck? Let’s Figure It Out Together.

Life can feel overwhelming at times—whether it’s work, decisions, or just finding balance. You don’t have to figure it all out alone. If you’d like a space to reflect, gain clarity, or move forward, feel free to explore my coaching page. I’d love to support you on your journey.

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